時(shí)光匆匆如流水，年輪一圈圈長(zhǎng)出。衰老是誰(shuí)也改變不了的生命規(guī)律。
Time is like water in a hurry, and the annual rings grow in circles. Aging is the law of life that no one can change.
但生命不息，對(duì)生活的熱愛(ài)也不止。認(rèn)真活出自己，認(rèn)真珍惜身邊所愛(ài)之人，認(rèn)真過(guò)好每個(gè)朝朝暮暮，將每一分每一秒，都活得搖曳生姿。
But where there is life, there is love for life. Seriously live out of their own, seriously cherish the people you love, seriously every day and night, every minute and every second, all live to sway health posture.
五十歲之后，想要過(guò)得幸福，最好的依靠，是這三個(gè)人。
After fifty years old, want to live a happy life, the best rely on, is these three people.
自己
都說(shuō)：在家靠父母，出門靠朋友。
They say: rely on parents at home, go out to rely on friends.
可轉(zhuǎn)頭想想，父母終會(huì)老去，親人不可能永遠(yuǎn)陪在身邊，朋友也做不到一直傾囊相助。
But turn to think, parents will be old, relatives can not always accompany, friends can not always help.
還有句話說(shuō)：靠山山會(huì)倒，靠水水會(huì)枯，靠廟廟會(huì)塌，靠神神會(huì)跑。
There is another saying: the mountains will fall, water will dry up, temples will collapse, God will run.
話粗理不粗。沒(méi)有人會(huì)一直給你依靠，即使靠得了一時(shí)，也靠不了一世。
The words are not coarse. No one will always give you to rely on, even if you can rely on a time, also can not rely on the world.
靠自己，才是王道。
On your own, is king.
張愛(ài)玲在《半生緣》里說(shuō)：“中年以后的人，時(shí)常會(huì)覺(jué)得孤獨(dú)。因?yàn)橐槐犻_眼，周圍都是要依靠他的人。而他卻無(wú)人依靠?！?/p>
Eileen Chang said in “Half Life Destiny” : “People after middle age often feel lonely. Because when he opens his eyes, he’s surrounded by people who depend on him. He has no one to rely on.”
隨著年齡增長(zhǎng)，漸漸明白：人人都有自己的難，家家都有本難念的經(jīng)。很多時(shí)候幫你是情分，不幫你是本分。
As I grow older, I gradually understand that everyone has their own difficulties, and every family has its own difficulties. Most of the time to help you is loyalty, do not help you is duty.
一個(gè)人最大的靠山，是自己；一個(gè)人最終的歸宿，也是自己。
A person’s biggest backer, is himself; A person’s final destination, but also their own.
依靠、依附他人，就得看他人臉色，把所有希望都寄托在別人身上，事事受命于人，處處被人左右，便沒(méi)法獲得真正的安全感，又談何過(guò)上想要的生活呢？
Rely on, depend on others, you have to see the face of others, put all hope on others, everything is ordered by people, everywhere by people, can not get a real sense of security, and talk about how to live the life you want?
世上所有的底氣，都要靠自己掙。錢靠自己掙，困難自己能解決，把家庭經(jīng)營(yíng)好，酸甜苦辣一并消受，生活的底氣因此而生。
All the confidence in the world, must rely on their own to earn. Money earned by their own, difficulties can be solved by themselves, the family management, sour, sweet, bitter and hot together, life is born.
生活，有光有影，有晴有雨，我們都須擁有與之博弈的勇氣。
Life, light and shadow, rain and sunshine, we must have the courage to play with it.
全靠自己，風(fēng)生水起。
All on their own, the wind and water.
這世上，除了父母，老伴就是最親的人。
In this world, in addition to parents, his wife is the closest person.
兩個(gè)陌生人結(jié)成姻緣，年輕時(shí)攜手走過(guò)風(fēng)風(fēng)雨雨，年老后彼此相濡以沫?？芍^：少年夫妻老來(lái)伴。
Two strangers formed a bond, walking hand in hand through the ups and downs of their youth, and caring each other in their old age. It may be said: the young couple come together old.
“要吃還是家常飯，要穿還是粗布衣，知冷知熱是結(jié)發(fā)夫妻”，老了，有個(gè)在乎你的冷暖、關(guān)心你的悲歡的老伴，是一生最大的幸福。
“To eat or home-cooked meals, to wear or coarse cloth clothes, knowing cold and knowing heat is married”, old, have a care about your cold and warm, care about your wife, is the greatest happiness of life.
羅振宇原本認(rèn)為婚姻是無(wú)趣的，但是一位老人改變了他對(duì)婚姻的看法。老人說(shuō)：
Luo Zhenyu originally thought marriage was boring, but an old man changed his mind. The old man said.
婚姻，就為了我午夜三點(diǎn)醒來(lái)的時(shí)候，我口渴，我傷口疼，我只需要捅捅旁邊，老太婆就知道，我這個(gè)時(shí)候要喝水。
Marriage, just for me to wake up at three o ‘clock in the midnight, I’m thirsty, my wound hurts, I just need to poke next to, the old woman knows, I want to drink water at this time.
就這一口水，你說(shuō)多貴？如果沒(méi)有幾十年經(jīng)營(yíng)出來(lái)的婚姻，這個(gè)時(shí)候，我上哪兒去要這口昂貴的水？
How expensive is this water? Without a marriage that has been in the works for decades, where am I going to get this expensive water at this point?
雖然年紀(jì)大了，但一想到身邊還有老伴，就能安心地一覺(jué)睡到太陽(yáng)升起。
Although I am old, I can sleep safely until the sun comes up when I think of my wife beside me.
兒女再孝順，也不能常伴身旁，老伴是能陪伴你的人，也是你可以依靠的人。人到老年，一定要珍惜老伴。
No matter how filial your children are, they can’t always be with you. Your wife is someone who can accompany you and someone you can rely on. When one grows old, one must cherish his wife.
“我能想到最浪漫的事，就是和你一起慢慢變老”，幸福，與老伴一起創(chuàng)造；快樂(lè)，和老伴一同尋找；然后相濡以沫過(guò)一生。
“I can think of the most romantic thing, is to grow old with you”, happiness, and his wife together to create; Happy, and his wife to find; And spend the rest of our lives together.
相知相依，不離不棄。有你在，便安心，便不懼白云蒼狗，世事難料。
Friends depend on each other, never abandon. Have you in, then peace of mind, will not be afraid of white clouds Canggu, things are unpredictable.
趙樸初先生說(shuō)，父母的家永遠(yuǎn)是孩子的家，子女的家從來(lái)不是父母的家。
Mr. Zhao Puchu said that the parents’ home is always the children’s home, and the children’s home is never the parents’ home.
養(yǎng)兒防老，最好不過(guò)。但現(xiàn)實(shí)情況很難滿足。
It’s best to raise our children for old age. But reality is hard to satisfy.
白巖松有段話一針見(jiàn)血：
Bai Yansong’s quote hit the nail on the head:
“想要養(yǎng)兒防老幾乎不可能，不是兒子不孝順，而是一對(duì)小年輕上面四個(gè)，上面這四個(gè)頂上還剩兩三個(gè)呢，請(qǐng)問(wèn)他養(yǎng)得起嗎？”
“It is almost impossible for him to raise his children for old age. It is not that his son is unfilial, but that there are only two or three young men left on top of the four. Can he afford it?”
聰明的父母不會(huì)指望孩子養(yǎng)老，靠自己養(yǎng)老才更靠譜，才能活得更自由，更有尊嚴(yán)。
Smart parents do not expect their children to retire. It is more reliable to retire on their own, so that they can live a more free and dignified life.
年老后，和兒女之間更多的是情感羈絆。孩子有空常來(lái)看望、陪伴自己，和自己打打電話，彼此掛念著，知道對(duì)方的心里有自己，就很好。
In old age, there is more of an emotional bond with children. Children often come to visit, accompany themselves, and their own phone, miss each other, know each other’s heart has their own, it is very good.
孩子孝順，是父母的福分，更多的不必強(qiáng)求。
Children filial piety, is the blessing of parents, more need not be forced.
人過(guò)五十，不需要跟孩子生活在同一屋檐下，而是享受孩子給的精神慰藉，有孩子的愛(ài)和陪伴，就不會(huì)感到孤單。
People over 50 do not need to live with their children under the same roof, but to enjoy the spiritual comfort of children, children’s love and company, will not feel lonely.
一生風(fēng)雨，幾度沉浮。
Life wind and rain, a few degrees of ups and downs.
五十歲之后，如果身體健康，就是莫大的幸運(yùn)。
After the age of fifty, if you are healthy, you are lucky.
五十歲以后，天空依舊晴朗，親朋好友還在身旁，善待老伴，守住老本，兒女關(guān)心，就是最好的光景。
After the age of 50, the sky is still sunny, relatives and friends are still around, treat your wife well, keep the old, children care, is the best prospect.
若能如此老去，那么老去又何妨？
If you can be so old, so old?
